Last night Husband and I were debating the pros and cons of me staying home after the baby comes.
That's a lie.
I was listing what I'd come up with during my endless 3 am bouts of worrying while Husband was looking at me like I was nuts. You know, that kind of debate.
I've always counted on staying home after we had kids, but now we don't know if we can do it financially. You know, at least until we win the lottery. Which will probably be tomorrow.
I also told him that I am kind of scared to be a stay-at-home mom. I don't like cleaning. I don't like laundry. I don't like cooking unless Husband's in the kitchen. And I definitely don't clean up vomit. Even my own. Good grief, I'm going to be a horrible mother. Stay-at-home or not.
Plus, I told him that I kind of go stir crazy when I'm there alone. I told him I wouldn't know what to do with myself.
Then he said, "Well, baby, you're already really good at watching Oprah. What else is there?"
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I don't think we'll be able to afford me not working, for a very long time.
And I also wondering about being a SAHM. I'm the type of person who really, really needs an adult outlet.
Have you investigated how much it costs for child care? I'm not saying I know, I just hear it's a lot. Also, you should check out my post about the child abuse case that I served on the jury for. I anticipate posting that sometime tonight.
And also - who DOES like any of those things? They get done because we all eventually run out of clothes, the kids get grumpy and mean if they don't eat & vomit all over the house doesn't make it a very nice place to spend your days. NO ONE likes doing those things. Like Dad always said, "You don't have to like it, you just have to do it."
I've talked to people just this week who say they like to cook, clean, and do laundry. I couldn't believe it.
I'm just scared to death that I'm going to get stuck in a rut doing a bunch of things I hate and then turn around one day and think, "Is this really my life??"
staying at home is wonderful! i feel as if i live a varied life. i do happen to love to cook and dont mind keeping house but that is not the end of it. i have my book club and my dear friends that i lunch with, have conversations from kids to politics to church doctrine. i find compassionate service to carry out and feed my mind with good books and movies. i spend as much time outside as i can, as well as visit museums, lectures and some theatre. staying at home is what you make of it. the rewards of you shaping your young ones way out weighs the cons.
you will be just fine....look for the positive and let the negative take care of itself.
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