Tuesday, June 11, 2013

And That's How It Is

I consider myself a pretty laid back person.

Oh, I know I can get excited about things, but for the most part, I think I'm pretty good at just letting things roll of my back.

I don't like confrontation and for the most part, I do everything I can to avoid it.

What really bothers me, though, is when people take my passivity for weakness.

Or they see it as an opportunity to bully someone.

Yesterday was one of those days.

Someone was super upset at me for something that was entirely beyond my control.

And ooo-wee, they let me know it.  Twice.

I just stood there thinking, "Really?!  Do you know how ridiculous you're acting over something that doesn't need to be made a big deal of?"

(I've had a couple of other run-ins with this same person and I always think she's ridiculous.)

In the end, I just calmly stood my ground and tried not to roll my eyes.

I guess the real point here is, what on earth do I need to do to make this stop happening?

I feel like a target a lot.

Do I just need to start being a jerk all the time?

Do I need a t-shirt that says, "Don't mess with me, I'm a karate master."



Anonymous said...

I have the same problem. If you come up with a solution, let me know. I bought a book called "Coping With Difficult People." Tried some of those strategies but I still feel like I need to tattoo my forehead with something to scare people away. Wait...Charles Manson did that. Alternative plan needed.

Holli said...

I feel like that, too... I'd rather avoid confrontation at all costs. I usually go down the path of least resistance because I figure I can be happy or I can be right (and I like to be happy!). But, I will say that if this occurs in front of Carolyn, you have to stick up for yourself. I had a situation when Gabi was much younger when a family member was yelling at me within earshot of her. It brought up a whole issue of bullying and I realized that if I wanted Gabi to stick up to bullies, then I had to, too - at least in her presence.

Seth & Chamberlin said...

If you start punching people when they do that - I promise it will stop happening.

Or you can just pick your nose while they talk - I think that would work too...